It’s important to keep the lines of communication open in any relationship, and there are some topics that require more attention than others. If you’re having a hard time starting these conversations with your boyfriend, consider focusing on these topics to make sure you two are on the same page:
Table of Contents
Serious things to talk about with your boyfriend
Money:
How often do you talk about money? You should be talking about it at least monthly. If you have difficulties with budgeting or one of you is spending too much or too little, this could be an issue. There are lots of ways to find out how you can get on a healthier financial track together—from creating a joint budget to meeting with a financial advisor.
Family:
Are you both planning on having kids? Are you considering adoption? Do you want four kids, or fifteen? Is he going to homeschool them? Will they go to private or public school? These are all things worth discussing now. Having different opinions on education and parenting can cause problems later on if they’re not addressed early.
The future:
Tying into the previous point, it’s also important to discuss what your hopes are for the future. Where do each of you want to live when you settle down? What does your ideal family life look like? How many pets do you plan
Serious questions to ask your boyfriend:
Finding the right person to be in a relationship with is no easy feat—it’s important to make sure you’re compatible and stand a chance of having a future together. It’s also important to have his interest at heart (it shouldn’t be from your side alone). Here are some questions to ask your boyfriend:
* What is your family history like? Do they get along? Have there been any mental health/substance abuse issues?
* What kind of relationship role model do you have in mind, either from your parents or from other sources?
* How will we handle finances and splitting household chores?
* What do you want out of life, and how does that overlap with what I want out of life?
* What are your thoughts on having kids/marriage/disciplining kids if we want them?
Random things to talk about with your boyfriend:
There’s no way to know if your boyfriend is interested or not. You can’t force him to be interested in you and you can’t force him to like you, but there are ways that you can get him to talk about random things. Here’s how:
1. Talk about what he does for a living. He’s probably just as interested in that shit as you are.
2. Talk about where he hangs out with his friends. Ask him what he likes to do when he hangs out with them and how often they hang out.
3. Ask him what he likes to eat, what his favourite food is, and if he’s ever had it before. This will help you figure out if he has any weird hang-ups on food or not. If he doesn’t have any weird hang-ups on food, then you’re good to go!
4. Find out if he has any hobbies or interests outside of work/school/gym/etc. This will help you see if there’s anything else in his life that he enjoys doing besides working/going to school/going to the gym/etc. It’ll also make the conversation flow better because now you know something new about him!
5. Ask what music he listens
6. You can also talk about sex! What he likes and doesn’t like while having sex.
Hot relationship topics to discuss:
To help you avoid any awkwardness that might come up on a first date, we’ve put together a list of hot relationship topics to discuss.
-Favorite song
-Favorite movie
-Hobbies and interests they’re passionate about
-Their favorite thing at the grocery store
-Your hopes, dreams, desires, and goals for your lives together
Cute topics to talk about with your boyfriend:
Best Things to Talk About With Your Boyfriend
I know it can sometimes be a little intimidating to bring up new topics of conversation with your boyfriend. You might worry that he’ll think you’re being too clingy or that you’re trying to change him, but that doesn’t need to be the case!
You want to keep your relationship fresh and exciting, and you don’t want things to get stale, right? It’s great to keep finding new things to talk about with each other. If you feel like you’ve already covered every topic under the sun, here are some cute topics to talk about with your boyfriend:
1. Favorite Color - This is a super simple topic, but it’s also one that many people never get around to discussing. If you’ve never asked each other this question before, maybe bring it up today!
2. Favorite Food - If he says something deep-fried and chocolatey, do not judge him for his food preferences. A man who loves chocolate is one you can trust!
3. Future Plans - A lot of people feel a bit uncomfortable discussing their future plans with someone else because they don’t want the other person to feel pressured or think that they’re getting into something serious too fast.
Romantic topics to talk with boyfriend:
#1: Talk about the past.
We all have our own personal histories, and it’s important in a relationship to share those with each other. Talking about your past is a great way to learn more about each other. Try talking about one of these topics:
-The first thing you ever cooked (or the first thing you remember cooking)
-Your favorite song/album right now
-Your favorite color/scent/flavor
-What’s your favorite memory from when you were a kid? Why is it your favorite?
#2: Talk about the present.
There are always things going on in our lives that we should be talking about with the people closest to us. Sharing these can help us understand each other better, so consider discussing one of these topics:
-What’s something that made you smile today? Why does it make you smile?
-What’s something that really annoys you at work or school?
Serious questions to ask your boyfriend about the future:
We’ve compiled a list of serious questions to ask your boyfriend about the future so that you can get a clearer picture of what he’s looking for and what he’s capable of.
While these are serious questions, we recommend asking them in a non-confrontational way—talk about your own hopes for the future first, so that he can feel more comfortable opening up about his own.
Here’s our list:
1. Do you want to have kids? If so, how many?
2. Do you want to get married? Why or why not?
3. What are your views on religion or spirituality? How do you see this affecting us as a couple in the future?
4. How do you envision us spending the holidays—do you think we’ll stick with our current traditions, or do you see us making new ones together?
5. What is your biggest fear for our future together? How can we work through it together, if possible?
Topics to talk about with your boyfriend over text at night:
1. What do you think your life was like before we met?
2. Are there any dreams you have that you haven’t told me about yet?
3. Are there any things you would change about yourself if you could?
4. If you could travel in time, what’s the first thing you would do?
5. What has been your favorite memory with me?
frequently asked questions
What topics can you talk about with your boyfriend?
Here are some ideas:
1. Start by asking your boyfriend how he feels about your relationship and if he thinks it’s going well.
2. If your boyfriend seems open to talking about the future of your relationship, ask him about his plans for the next couple years. Try to get a sense for what he wants to do in the next year, five years, ten years.
3. If he seems receptive to talking about where your relationship fits into his life, try bringing up some of the things that are important to you in a relationship and see how he responds.
Does he seem excited or nervous when you talk about moving in together? Does he seem excited or nervous when you talk about kids? Or does he have trouble talking about those things at all?
4. If there are things you want from your relationship that he doesn’t seem too keen on (or even avoid talking about), you might want to consider if this is the right person for you right now or if you should stay with him until something else comes along. At this point it’s really up to you what you want out of your relationship
